Thinking of trying out being a “sugar daddy”? Here are a few tips for guys getting started on sugar websites like Sugarbook or SeekingArragement in 2021. As in 2020, Covid is still going to cramp your style, but thanks to vaccines that started rolling in 2020, there is light at the end of this tunnel – and we’re pretty sure it’s not a train!
What are the most popular times of the year to find sugar babies?
They’re about what you might think. According to our web-stats, the biggest times are:
- Early November. This could be Black Friday and the whole holiday season. Once December hits, most ladies are probably into Family stuff, so start looking right at the end of October.
- Early September. The period from near the end of August to around September 10th seemed to be popular – it makes sense, being the start of school and ladies are looking for some extra income.
- April/May. Again school-related, with most exams ending around May, thoughts turn to summer fun and adventures – and that might cost money!
- February 11 (a few days before Valentine’s Day). Not sure why maybe just looking for a bit of romance?
Covid-19 and Sugardating
One thing we didn’t expect was the arrival of the Coronavirus last year. The most immediate change is two things: people are less willing to meet up, and more ladies are looking for virtual arrangements, as well as lots of jobs in witnessing and other service jobs have disappeared, so there is more demand.
Unfortunately, the move to virtual dating has also brought out the scammers.
- If you’re not looking for a virtual arrangement, be upfront about it; consider adding “Not looking for virtual” on your profile.
- If someone new asks for a PayPal transfer, remember you have no idea where it’s really going, and there’s no way of getting it back once it’s sent.
- If someone pressures you to send a “deposit” or some amount to visit you, instead of sending them money, offer to cover their trip with Uber or offer to meet them near their area.
- Tell them that you’d be happy to do a PayPal transfer, but only once you’ve met. Explain that it’s against SA’s policies to send money. Be polite but firm. Most genuine people will understand why your reluctance to send money to a stranger, scammers will usually move on to an easier mark.
- If you’re pretty certain you’re dealing with a scammer, consider reporting them, as you might save another member some money.
What should a good message say?
- Complement them. Read their bio and look at their pictures. Find something that is unique, even if they haven’t filled out most of their profile. Do they mention interests, what they’re taking in school, or being sick of guys who aren’t serious? Put something in the message that shows you read theirs, and you’re not copy-pasting to 50 profiles.
- Ask a question. Like complementing, this shows that you read their bio and gives them another reason to respond.
- Be direct without creepy. Mention what you’re looking for and keep it short. Most girls know you’re looking for sex. Skip says you’re looking to meet 2-3 times a month and are free on weekends. Let them know what they’re signing on for so nobody’s time is wasted.
- Never ask for anything that sounds like PPM. Asking “how much do you want” or offering could get you blocked or banned (Pay Per Meet is against Seeking’s policies).
- Keep it short. Ladies are getting bombed with messages. Make your’s short and to the point: Hello, this is what I read in your profile that attracted me; here’s what I’m looking for.
Use a bit of discretion.
- Photos live forever. Don’t use the same photos you have on other social media. Apps like Google’s Image Search let people upload an image are find similar ones, which could lead back to your personal information.
- Make public photos discreet. This image gets mailed out when you contact someone, meaning it lives on the Internet forever. Use blurring and other things that Seeking allows.
- Burner phone. There are several apps like Burner and Hush that let you communicate without giving out your real number. Use them, at least until you trust the person enough.
- Be careful about giving out too much personal information. Until you’ve actually met someone in real life, they could well be a scammer from anywhere in the world. Normal people will be fine if you say you work for “a bank” and live in “downtown Vancouver.”
- Meet in public places, ideally. This is for both your and their safety. In fact, unless they are a bit more “pro”, they’ll want to meet somewhere other than your apartment the first time you meet. For those who want to “skip the formalities” (some do), consider a hotel but agree to meet for a drink in the lobby; if they’re not willing to even do that, maybe it’s best to skip.