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How Young Is Too Young? Advice for the Barely Legal Sugar Baby

This week we’ll talk about some things for younger women considering giving sugar daddy dating a try to be aware of before jumping in. 

Not Eighteen? No Admittance to the Club

Ok, let’s get it out of the way “Barely Legal” sounds creepy, but that’s what some people seem to call ladies who are on the younger end of the sugar baby age spectrum, so we’ll accept it and move on. Even though legal the age on consent varies from country to country, Seeking Arrangement requires that all members to be 18 or over, and we think maybe waiting a year or two more isn’t a bad idea, especially if you want to go out for drinks or go to other places, like casinos with a potential sugardaddy, where there is sometimes a higher age limit.

Honestly, this is more of an issue for the guys, so if you do look on the young end, don’t be surprised if guys ask for some ID or proof that you are of legal again. For guys, the good news is that the drinking age is usually at least the same age as consent if not older (but not always, especially in some European countries where a glass of wine isn’t considered a gateway drug). Most normal guys in their 30s and up are not going to be interested in women who, well, looks like girls.

Bottom line, if you’re “turning 18 in a few months,” just wait those few months, it’s not worth the hassle, and potential of getting your account flagged.

Protect Yourself By Setting Limits For Yourself

Let’s be honest, the guys joining sugar baby sites like Seeking Arrangement are mostly looking for a partnership that will involve some sex. Yes, not all of them, but the majority. If you’re not comfortable with that, the best you can do is put something clearly in your description saying you’re a platonic sugar baby like “not seeking intimate”, “platonic only,” or just straight-out “no sex.”

Now the question some guys will ask is, does that mean “no. period.”, or “let’s get to know each other for a few dates, then figure that out.” That’s perfectly valid, and you have to decide where you stand, if the chemistry is there, why not? If the guy is totally not attractive, or he’s cool, but you’re just not into him that way, then that’s why you have it in your “about me” description. If you’re brand new to the idea, check out our tips on sugar daddies to avoid.

Remember,  if you agree to go out for dinner or just a coffee, that’s what you’ve agreed on, you don’t owe anyone anything more or less. If they try and push you for more, maybe it’s time to leave, people who get away with a bit, will usually try for more. For this reason, we recommend going for coffee at a mall or some other public place where you can leave safely if you don’t feel comfortable with your date. See our 10 tips for safe sugar dating, for some other things to keep in mind, especially on your first date with a sugar daddy (or any other dating situation).

Decide on Your Goals and Preferences Before Getting Into The Sugarbowl

Part of your decision deciding to try sugar dating is what are your goals, and your desires. If you’re looking for someone to take you out to a nice restaurant, say that, you’re looking for help with rent, most guys expect that. If you’d prefer someone from the same background as yourself, you can say that too, but keep it classy and emphasis what you’re looking for, say, “single Asian or White business suite guys between 30 and 45 who like to go eat at 5-star restaurants.” rather than offending people by saying you’re just not into a particular group of people. There’s nothing wrong with having preferences, but if you come off aggressively against someone’s background, you might turn off guys who are in your preference too.

Sugar Dating: Do It for the Right Reasons

Many girls who have just turned 18 consider the sugar bowl as a place to turn to when they realize they need a benefactor, some attention, and well – resources. It is very important to find your own identity before you seek out a sugar daddy, knowing yourself and being independent can have an impact on the type of relationship you have with your sugar daddy and others in your life. Moving out of your parents’ house before you enter the world of sugar can be a stepping stone towards independence. Finding a job can also help you gain some financial freedom along with training you with various life skills and help you get a good attitude. Knowing that you can depend on yourself if you don’t have your sugar daddy to fall back on can make a great difference to your emotional well-being.

Bad Sex? Not the End of the World, Seriously.

While there are ladies who come on to the sugar baby websites to “loose their V-card,” (ok, happened exactly once) or are looking to get more experience inside and outside the bedroom (not too uncommon), and that’s fine, just decide what you’re comfortable with. I’m going to say that most people don’t have a particularly amazing first sexual experience – but like the saying goes, “it gets better”. Lot of people have adventures like hooking up with the “wrong guy” or had some other experiences you’d “totally die!” if a family member knew about them – that’s life.  As long as it’s consensual, then it’s probably ok. Yes, lots of people will give advice saying losing your virginity is a huge event (especially) for women. That’s true, but getting your own apartment, moving away for university or starting your first company are also going to be life changing experiences. That said, do practice safe sex; pregnancy or a STD are not the kind of life-changing experiences you want to start your adventures off with.

That said, most sugar daddies expect sugar babies to have a bit of experience, so if you’re pretty new to all this, maybe date a few guys in your own age bracket before jumping into the bowl, after all, you’re not going to be a sugar baby for too many years (you’re going to graduate and start your career probably before you turn 30), so meet some people your own age too – after all, most people do end up in relationships with people roughly the same age as themselves eventually.

There’s a saying that women are they’re most sexual in their 30s, and there’s a good reason: they’ve dated a few people and know what they like in a guy (or a women), what turns them on – and also what kinds of things don’t. So yes, like everything in life, experience matters.

Living at Home? Maybe Wait a Bit Longer

If a sugar baby has grown up with strict parents who don’t agree with them on many things then it is absolutely possible that the parents aren’t going to approve of the sugar lifestyle. Having a strategy of how you will deal with them and whether you intend to tell them about your mutually beneficial relationship is very important – and yes, expect them not to be thrilled. Lying about things on a daily basis is not easy and makes your life very complicated, it would be better to wait till you are more independent and ready to deal with your parents and your sugar daddy. Being in a sugar relationship usually involves a bit of discreetness, and parents do notice things that you might not think off.

The Choice Is Yours

Many girls who have just turned 18 consider the sugar bowl as a place to turn to when they realize they need a benefactor, some attention, and well – resources. What are the most important things that a new sugar baby who is just legal should know?

Searching for a sugar daddy may sound easy and fun; however it can be stressful and can have you deal with various situations. Don’t let the difficulties of finding a reliable sugar daddy stress you out; no one wants to hang around a stressed person. Don’t go into the sugar life just because someone else thinks you should or if you feel you aren’t really ready for it. Learn as much about the sugar lifestyle as you can before you dive into it, don’t be mislead by what you see online and remember that life is not all sparkly all the time. Don’t let anyone treat you like a hooker that’s not what you’re signing up for, remember that if there is a way in, there is a way out. Take time to think about it and then think again the next day. Opportunities will always be around. We wish you luck!

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